What Do You Do When Despair Hits?

What do you do when despair takes over?  What do you do when you become despondent? Despair means to lose all hope or confidence.  Despondent implies a deep dejection arising from a conviction of the uselessness of further effort.
Psalm 88 is the saddest Psalm of all 150 Psalms.  The man writing the Psalm probably has leprosy which is a deadly, contagious disease with no cure.  This disease results in the victim being isolated and separated from society.  He wants to die… Psalm 88:15 “I have been afflicted and ready to die from my youth;  I suffer Your terrors; I am distraught.”  He is a very defeated, discouraged and depressed man.  At times, he blames God for his situation.
Here is a man who believes that he has no future, no friends, no foundation, and no faith.  Look at Psalm 88:8 “You have put away my acquaintances far from me; You have made me an abomination to them; I am shut up, and I cannot get out!”
Are you there?  Have you been there?  Is your child there? What is the leprosy that is causing the despair?  It could be a  reoccurring sin or habit. It could be an addiction. It could be a sickness.  It could be a financial problem. It could be a job loss problem. It could be a marital problem. It could be a family problem.  Whatever it is…it has devastated you and you are neutralized!

There are two things you must do in this situation:

1.  In boxing lingo, the psalmist was down for the count.  But the psalmist managed to cry out to the Lord.    When down and out, muster all your strength and cry out to God.  Psalm 88: 1-3, “O LORD, God of my salvation, I have cried out day and night before You. Let my prayer come before You; incline Your ear to my cry. For my soulis full of troubles, and my life draws near to the grave.” Psalm 88: 13:  “But to You I have cried out, O LORD, and in the morning my prayer comes before You.”
2. Ask God to give you a new incite into your situation.  According to Matthew 7:11, God is a loving, caring Father and everything that gets to you is filtered through His fingers of love, for a divine purpose in your life.  2 Corinthians 4:17, “For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory.”  2 Corinthians 12:7-10, “And lest I should be exalted above measure by the abundance of the revelations, a thorn in the flesh was given to me, a messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I be exalted above measure. Concerning this thing I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me. And He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
Be encouraged by Psalm 34 which repeatedly says that when you do cry out, the Lord hears!!!!  Be encouraged by Psalm 138:8 “The Lord will perfect that which concerns me”!!!!  Be encouraged by Isaiah 49:15 where God promises “…I will not forget you” !!!!

ReFocus Ministry is co-sponsoring a Wellness Seminar.  God created each of us to be a triune being that is made up of body, soul, and spirit. If one of these is neglected, we will not enjoy good health.  This seminar will concentrate on a balanced approach to life…a look at nutrition, the use of herbs and vitamins, the use of exercise, and the development of a healthy relationship with God through Jesus Christ. I will be teaching on God’s Design for Spiritual Health.  The Seminar is February 16-18. The location is the Falling Waters Mountain Lodge at 275 Kennemur Road in Ellijay, Georgia.   And the cost is $150.  Please notify me or Betsy Falgiano at 706-276-888 or 404-542-1834 if you would like to attend.  Deadline for registration is February 9th.  Cost does not include a room at the lodge.
God bless you.
Billy and Sheilah Daws

Is there life after Moab?

Ok…you made a mistake.  You did not wait on God.  You charged right in.  You got tired of waiting on the  new job…of waiting on the money…of waiting for “Mr.  Right”…of waiting on a ‘sign from God’.  As soon as  you ‘inked’ the deal, you knew it was wrong.  You  married the wrong guy…you jumped ship from one company to  a new one, only to find the new boss is worse than the old  one…you entered into the partnership only to find out the  new partner has a horrible reputation.

Last week we talked about Lot’s desire to have a son to  carry on the family name.  His two daughters got tired  of waiting on God, so they each enticed their dad to get  drunk and each daughter got pregnant by their father.   They both had sons for Lot. One was Moab and one was  Ammon.  These two boys became heads of nations that  terrorized the nation of Israel for years and years!   This was the tragic consequences of not waiting on God.

Do we have a ‘Moab’ that we birthed by not waiting  on God?  Yep…a credit card debt that we incurred  seven years ago.  Because we did not wait for God  to provide for a need, every month we make a sizeable  payment to a credit card company,  a sizeable monthly  reminder of the dangers of not waiting on God.

Can I get God to waive a magic wand and reverse situations? No!
Once you have birthed a ‘Moab’ or a ‘Ammon’, you can’t  undue it.  Your Moab may be a debt you created when you  did not wait on God to provide.  Your Moab may be a  terrible job situation you jumped into because you got  tired of waiting on God to fix your former job.  Your  Moab may be a spouse that you  married because you were not  patient enough to wait for God to lead you to His  mate for you.

Can any good come from a ‘Moab’ situation? The  answer is yes.

Follow these instructions:

  • Confess the sin of not waiting on God
  • Ask God to forgive you
  • Ask God to give you grace to endure the ‘Moab’  situation
  • Trust the sovereignty of God that He can make all  things work together for good for those who are His  children
  • Thank God that you have a constant reminder of the  consequences of not waiting on God

God will not erase your Moab…but He can attach new  meaning to it and He can cause good to come out of the  situation.  In the lineage of Jesus from Abraham to Joseph, three women are included. One is Ruth. She was  a wonderful, honorable, virtuous woman.  She happened  to be the great grandmother of King David…and…she  happened to be a descendant of Moab!   Ruth 1:22  (KJV)  So Naomi  returned, and Ruth the Moabitess, her daughter in  law, with her, which returned out of the country of Moab:  and they came to Bethlehem in the beginning of barley  harvest.  Matthew 1:5-6  (KJV)  And Salmon begat  Boaz of Rachab; and Boaz begat Obed of Ruth; and Obed begat  Jesse; And Jesse begat David the  king;…      Romans 8:28 (NKJV)  And we  know that all things work together for good to those who  love God, to those who are the called according to His  purpose.

Psalm 27:14 (KJV)  Wait on  the Lord: be of good courage, and  he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the  Lord. 

God bless you as you wait on God in  this new year.  We love yall.

Billy and Sheilah Daws

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Why does God allow flies, poison oak, snakes, sand fleas, Ammon and Moab?

I am not sure of the why on the other things, but we  can’t really blame Ammon and Moab on God.  Problems are  a part of life, a part of God ‘s plan to train us, to make  us who He wants us to be.    But what if the  problems were created by our own wrong decisions?

The nation of Israel had at least two such  problems.  One was Ammon. One was Moab. Ammon  became a bitter enemy and opposed Israel (the followers  of God) in future generations.  It was Moab that  refused Israel passage through the land after coming out of  Egypt. It was Moab that hired Balaam to curse Israel.   In Psalm 108:9, we find an interesting description of  Moab. We read, “Moab is my washpot.” J. Vernon McGee says  that one way to paraphrase this is, “Moab is my garbage  can.”  It was a place that God frowned upon and its  people were an outcast people. Moab in the Bible is a type  of the old man and the fleshly desires of the old  life.

These problems began with Lot, who was the nephew of  Abraham.  Lot had no sons, only two daughters.  A man would be greatly saddened if he did  not have a male heir to continue the family  name. Genesis 19:31-38 says that the daughters  were concerned for their father, but rather than  choosing to wait on God, they decided  to take matters into their own hands.  One of the girls came up with a plan to get dad drunk and sleep with  him one night.  She then had her  sister do the same the next night.  One daughter gave birth to Moab who became father of the Moabites. One daughter gave birth to Ammon who became father of  Ammonites.

The nations of Moab and Ammon are the bi-products of not waiting on God!

In the Hebrew, Moab has several meanings:

Money charged on the Visa card instead of  waiting for God to supply
Problem caused because you left your old job and took  a new job instead of waiting on  God to fix the old job
Marrying a boy of your choosing rather than  waiting on God’s  choice…and now you find you married a ‘loser’
Partner you took into the business because you needed  his money rather than wait on God to provide the  capital…and your partner is a ‘crook’
Anything you do when you don’t wait on  God!
Now that’s not what Moab really means in the Hebrew. But  that is what Moab and Ammon represent in real life.

If you are about to make a decision and you don’t  have the go ahead from God…WAIT, you are about to birth a  MOAB!

Some of you have asked if ReFocus is an incorporated,  non-profit, 501 (c) 3?  We are now.  We are  incorporated as ReFocus Ministry, Inc. Our 501 (c) 3  will be approved shortly.  This means that all  contributions to our ministry are tax-deductible.   We still maintain the posture that God has led us to. We  will only tell God of our needs.  But we will tell  everyone when God meets our needs.  We believe that God has led us to be a demonstration to the church that you can trust God.  By simply praying about our needs, God touches the hearts of people to give. God amazes us with  what He is doing in the realm of our finances.

Billy and Sheilah Daws